Taming Your Inner Judge

You are not enough.  Not good enough. Not ready yet.  Not worthy.  Sound familiar? 


What is listening to your inner judge or inner critic costing you?  


What might be possible if he/she/they weren't whispering in your ear wanted to do something new, try something different, exploring something exciting?


The good news?  Having an internal judge is normal.


The better news?  I can help you tame that inner voice, so you get get on with living the life you want, achieving your full potential and realising the success you know you are capable of.

Shifting Out of Accidental Careers

Do you feel like you are on a conveyor belt in your career? Perhaps it is taking you to a place that isn't all that interesting to you or in a way that feels uninspired, uninteresting, or just plain misaligned with who you are or who you wish to become.


Welcome to the accidental career path.  The choices you made in high school are continuing to define who you are and what you do.  How is it going?  Do you feel alive, challenged, growing, and inspired?  What might be possible if you were?


Many people end up following a path laid out early on in their lives that no longer serves them well. Let's find out what you were truly meant to do and get on a career path of intention, satisfaction, and fulfilment. 

Putting Out the Fire of Perpetual Crisis and Feelings of Overwhelm

Running from pillar to post?   Keeping way too many plates in the air with the occaisonal one hitting the ground.  Are other people's poor planning processes creating ongoing emergencies for you?  Sounds exhausting.  It IS exhuasting. 


Lives are busy.  Families are busy.  Work can be crazy.  How's all of this working for you?  When we are living on adrenaline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, exchanging one crisis for another, we can feel very alive, right up until our head explodes - and then, hopefully after some "downtime" we get right back up and repeat the whole process again.


If you are thinking maybe this is wearing a bit thin, or is compromising other parts of your life, your health, your sense of well-being, perhaps it is worth working on.  I can help you with that.

Escaping your Personal Vat of Doom

You are likely familiar with the concept of "Imposter Syndrome".  Imposter Syndrome is the feeling you get when you think you aren't worthy of the role you have and that any moment you will be "found out" as an imposter with all of the negative consequences you can imagine happening as a consequence.  "Fake it till you make it" used to be a strategy.  Now it can become a way of life - but is that what you want?  Is that how you want to live?


How do you know if you are living in your "Vat of Doom"?  How much time are you spending experiencing negative emotions? Some of the popular options are: guilt,regret, shame, hurt, anger, resentment, etc.


However, some of the real attractions to the "Vat of Doom" are our inner fears.  Fears such as:

  • fear of being powerless,
  • fear of being unlovable,
  • fear of being incompetent,
  • fear of being unvalued.

How much time and energy are you expending in your personal Vat of Doom? Might that energy be more productive elsewhere?

Discovering and Committing to Your Noble Purpose

I love the story of a man approaching a castle gate only to be confronted by the guard standing there.  The guard asks the man:

  • Who are you?
  • Where are you going?
  • Why is it important that you get there?

The man then asks the guard how much he is paid and offers to double it if he agrees to one thing.  "What must I do?", asks the guard, to which the man replies, "Every time you see me, you must ask me those same three questions."


It seems like human beings are wired to cherish meaning in their lives and yet more often than not, this meaning or noble purpose seems as best elusive and at worse, non-existent.  I believe that it exists in each of us and that what is lacking is the time and guidance to help discover it.


One of the impediments that often get in the way of people unearthing their noble purpose is the belief that it has to be right.  In fact, your noble purpose is always in draft form - forever influenced by your life's journey, your experiences, and the person you are becoming.  So do not stress about it being 100% accurate.  The value is in the feeling it instills in you, not in any pretense of perfection.


I have found that when people have identified and started to refine their noble purpose, that it has a hugely profound impact on helping them make congruent decisions in their lives all the while reducing stress and creating a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. 


So, what is your noble purpose?  What calls to you when the going gets tough?  What would gaining clarity on this do for you?  Do you want to find out?

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